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The Nine Gamut Procedure

 - by lucie

Originally included in the basic EFT recipe and sandwiched between two rounds of the full tapping sequence – with face, chest and finger points – the nine gamut procedure has slowly faded out of the common tapping techniques used by new practitioners.

But…

I think this might be a mistake.

1. When dealing with deeply buried upsets and suppressed feelings, the nine gamut procedure has no equal in bringing out emotional intensity where previously the practitioner was feeling either flat and detached. So it’s particularly useful in dealing with traumatic memories that we know we should be upset about but instead are feeling numb to.

2. The nine gamut procedure can also help if the practitioner is stuck. If after a few rounds of tapping, there doesn’t seem to be any change and there’s no insight as to what to do next, it’s time to give the nine gamut a change. By connecting the two hemispheres of the brain and accessing non verbal data, it allows new unconscious information to surface.

3. It’s also very useful when a strong emotion erupts out of nowhere and we find ourselves on an emotional roller coaster so intense that even tapping doesn’t entirely manage to slow it down. Using the nine gamut procedure at that time will be particularly effective in both calming down the practitioner and preventing re-traumatization. In short, the nine gamut is perfect in case of emergency.

However, there’s one big cave at. The nine gamut procedure looks goofy.

Really goofy.

And that’s coming from an EFT pro who’s been tapping in public for close to a decade without feeling self-conscious (that would be me).

So… What is the nine gamut?

It’s a series of nine actions.With your head steady and while tapping on the back of your hand in the hollow between the base of the pinky finger and the ring finger, do the following nine things:

1. Close your eyes
2. Open your eyes
3. Look to be bottom left
4. Look to the bottom right
5. Make a circle with your eyes
6. Make a circle in the other direction
7. Hum a tune
8. Count to 5
9. Hum again

Then pause to notice any change and resume the procedure if necessary.

For more on the science behind the nine gamut procedure, read this article by Dawson Church.

 

The Other Side of Life Interview II – EFT for Family Relationships

 - by lucie

And here we go again! As Thanksgiving approaches – it’s a mere week away – Art Shaw and I wanted to spread the word about EFT and how you can use it to leverage family dynamics in your favor. Whether
…you’re dreading the big dinner with your family,
…you’re sick of your brother’s ways,
…you’ve experienced trauma and abuse in your past and are afraid of being triggered all over again by your relatives
…you don’t want to be hurt anymore but can’t help reacting to the same old criticisms
This audio interview is for you. Listen in and tap ahead.

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The Other Side of Life Interview – Introduction to EFT (and a word phobia)

 - by lucie

Art Shaw, the generous and vibrant mind behind the Other Side of Life blog and radio show is not only fully dedicated to spreading the word about spirituality and healing, he’s also a brilliant interviewer. Check him out – as well as myself – in this introduction to EFT (with a short word on phobias)…

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New Year’s Resolutions and Other Endless Possibilities

 - by lucie

Dear EFT friends,

Happy New Year! I’m sending you good wishes to accompany you on your journey. May 2011 be all that you wish it to be…

On that occasion, I’d like to send you a few words on the thorny topic of new year’s resolutions.
Far be it from me to prevent you from making any – it’s always good to aim higher and challenge yourself to reach new goals – but it’s sad to notice how much disappointment, failed hopes and crushed self-esteem they can leave in their wake…

Let me give you some pieces of information on how the human mind deals with change.
Change is implemented over a period of time through the use of repetition. This is in order to hammer things that require conscious attention at first into our subconscious mind so they can eventually be executed without any conscious effort. This is how we learn how to write with a pen without always thinking about the shape of the letters we’re tracing. This is how we learn to brush our teeth at bedtime no matter how tired we are.

And this is also how we shape what we perceive as being our identity:
After a few failures in math class, Victor is going to see himself as a person who cannot bring good math grades to his parents. It now is part of his identity, and his subconscious is going to filter the information surrounding Victor so that he only perceives what reinforces that perception. Finally it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and he finds himself entirely unable to improve in math class, no matter how hard he tries.

If your new resolutions are gritting against such an ingrained unconscious belief about yourself, there’s going to be a conflict between your subconscious and conscious mind. This often results in a short struggle against yourself, a display of courage and will, followed by a period of involuntary self-sabotage before finally giving up with either bitterness or festering disappointment.

Sometimes, the changes are more lasting, and the new behavior is implemented through much painful repetition. Sophia, for example, is able to stick to a gym routine for a rather long time. That is until she takes a vacation, stops exercising for two weeks, and finds herself completely unable to resume her routine when she comes back home. Or Erich starts that sculpture class he’s always dreamed of, takes the leap to become a professional artist, but never fulfills his creative potential (or never gets enough clientele to make a decent living with his passion).

What happened?

Well, humans, like other mammals, are driven by two types of mechanisms: those ensuring the survival of the species, and those providing them with a pleasurable sensation. It sounds overly hedonistic but it’s true: the only people sticking to good eating habits do it because it feels good, whether it’s a delicious taste, the satisfaction of treating themselves right, or the exhilaration of seeing their new healthy body. If there is displeasure, it is much harder to stick with anything: “It’s too difficult, I’ll never make it” or, “I don’t know where to start, I feel lost,” or, “It’s in the genes anyway; I can’t do anything about my weight.”

As if on purpose, those thoughts are not just a manifestation of displeasure, they’re also the proof of an internal conflict between unconscious and conscious mind… As soon as you have reservations about anything you want to change in your life, as soon as you feel less than enthused about a new prospect you’re contemplating, this is the sign your conscious mind is not in alignment with one or several beliefs you unwillingly hold about yourself.

And since our subconscious mind always wins – because our survival depends on it – this doesn’t bode well for the future of resolutions.

Fortunately, there is a way (there are even several) to reprogram your brain and change the self-limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your goals. Any technique that bypasses the barrier of the conscious mind and directly starts a dialogue with the subconscious can give you the ability to finally make those resolutions happen without feeling like you’re pulling your own teeth. Hypnosis, EMDR, TAT, Psy-K are only a handful of names in the wider field of energy psychology that serves just that purpose. But my favorite method – as you probably know – is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).
I love it for its

1. Efficacy: therapists report close to 98% of success with their clients, which is an unbelievably high number compared to conventional therapy.
2. Simplicity: it’s so easy to learn, anyone can use it.
3. Versatility: one recipe works for every kind of problem, whether emotional or physical.
4. Universality: whether you believe in EFT or not doesn’t influence the outcome; it can work on anyone.
5. Affordability: not only can you use it on yourself, but if you choose to work with a therapist, you typically need a lot fewer sessions than other therapies, thus saving a ton of money.

Most of all, I love the feeling of being empowered with my own health and well-being, and the knowledge that I can improve my life beyond my wildest aspirations!

Join me for a three-workshop series taking place on Saturday 15, 22 and 29 of January, from 3 to 5. Mixing quite a bit of instructions with a lot of hands-on tapping, these workshops are ideal to get you started (or put you back on tracks) with an energy tool designed to change your relationship with yourself in general, and with new year’s resolutions in particular.

  •  Workshop 1 will addresses the basics of the technique, and in particularly the tapping recipe on which everything else is constructed.
  •   Workshop 2 will focus on how to craft incredibly potent EFT sentences to achieve more autonomy in your practice.
  •   Workshop 3 tells you what to do when EFT is not working, and is dedicated to trouble-shooting your practice.

You can choose to attend one or more of either of these workshops. Each one is only $10 (this is an unbelievable value that is well worth $100 in price)!
Bring your issues and your resolutions list!

See you soon,

Lucie

The Case for the Glass of Water

 - by lucie

I remember the first time I got in contact with an EFT website that was re-inventing the wheel by giving their own version of the EFT tapping sequence with a twist: drinking a full glass of water was recommended before starting the process in order to, allegedly, allow energies to flow better. That made me slightly uncomfortable. I began to suspect that there was a hint of dishonesty behind. Even though virtually all EFT websites pay due respects to the founder of EFT, Gary Craig, some barely acknowledge that the tapping algorithm is his creation and present their own version with just a slight “innovation” so as to enable them to claim the full paternity for their tapping recipe. The excuse of introducing a mere glass of water in the sequence seemed quite shallow.
Then I discovered that Gary Craig shared my opinion. He expressed himself clearly enough in an article published on his website (http://emofree.com/cutting-edge.htm) and titled “Why EFT is always on the Cutting Edge – and some useful perspectives”:

Drinking Water: Some promoters insist that clients must be well hydrated or else EFT’s benefits will be impaired.

I see no evidence of this whatsoever and yet it is sometimes portrayed as “the missing piece” in EFT.  I have helped countless people with EFT and have never asked any of them to drink water during the process.  Further, I once delivered EFT to a roomful of 500 people and got results with all but one.  No one was asked to drink water.

The general idea behind this EFT/water contention is that water is essential to the conduction of energy within the body.  Maybe so, but we’re already 70+%  water so what good does it do to add another 1% through drinking a glass of water?  Further, It takes an hour or two for a glass of water to be absorbed and thus hydrate the cells. By that time, most EFT sessions are over.

Watch professional basketball players, for example.  They run up and down the court sweating profusely and take in very little water. Yet their energy still courses through their bodies in perfect fashion. Basketball is far more demanding on the mental and physical body than an EFT session and yet maintaining optimum hydration is not required for these athletes to perform at top levels.

A new perspective on this whole discussion began to dawn on me in the early months of 2009. In January 2009, I got attuned to reiki by the reiki master Ellen Sokolow. The attunement itself was a very powerful experience that propelled me across the last miles separating me from the intuitive healer I am today. Ellen shared with me after the ceremony that reiki helps you become who you are. And it didn’t take weeks before I understood very concretely what she meant: my intuition had been multiplied tenfold! Not only was I able to perceive other people’s energy with much more vividness in my every day life, but in the midst of doing EFT with a client, I could suddenly feel things they were experiencing in their bodies, emotions they were going through and see flashes of their memories before my eyes. Even with my history of being an emotional empath, I was overwhelmed by the amount of sensations and intuitions I was receiving… But the most obvious information I received had a lot to do with dehydration.

When our bodies are dehydrated, the lack of water often produces a headache. In my case – lucky me! – the only headaches I get are dehydration headaches. The brain being 75% water is particularly sensitive to a lack of water. The body, sensing that the water supply is running low, generates histamines to alert us to the impending dehydration. The histamines are accompanied by pain and fatigue. Hence the headache… (See the following articles in wikipedia and buzzle)

So the first time I felt a dehydration headache during an EFT session with a client, and a much stronger one than I was used to, 15 minutes after having drunk a big glass of water, I knew that the problem didn’t come from me. I got up and fetched a glass of water for the person I was working with. She thanked me saying that she felt very thirsty and was beginning to feel dehydrated. Ah-ah!

This experiment has been consistently reproduced. Every time I’m very thirsty, it doesn’t impede the client’s healing process. But if they are thirsty, not only do I feel it (and strongly so), but healing seems to be stopped until they drink a glass of water and let their bodies relax out of emergency mode. Usually the results are next to instantaneous: one mere minute is more than enough to dispel the headache and let the energy flow back on.

In conclusion, my opinion is more nuanced than Gary’s. It is needless to include the glass of water in an allegedly new-and-improved tapping recipe, especially since dehydration headaches aren’t that common. But when they occur, healing is stopped in its tracks just as completely as if an energy toxin was present in the room or in the patient’s body. And it might very well be the case: perhaps the histamines produced by the body to alert us when dehydration threatens act as toxins for this particular client.

At any rate, I am incredibly grateful that I’m equipped with an internal tool to unmistakably detect when this phenomenon is happening. My intuition as a therapist is an invaluable gift that keeps surprising me, again and again…

In Defense of the Liver Point

 - by lucie

According to Lindsay Kenny’s article, “the Liver Point or Liver 14 in acupuncture terms, can be found on the mammilary line, under the nipple, 2 ribs below the nipple, about where a woman’s bra wire would be. For a man it’s about 3 inches under his nipples. Because of it’s “inconvenient positioning” it began to be eliminated in public forums. However, the Liver Point is an important meridian for stress, depression, cravings and anger.”

In most of the shortcuts developed and customized by numerous therapists, the Liver Point has disappeared. Yet, I made a conscious choice to include it with all my patients. Here is why.

1. “My Point”
Gary Craig encourages us to find our own point, by which he means a point with which we experience a more effective healing, an notable increase of energy flow, etc. For a lot of people, it turns out to be the Collarbone Point (and it is the case for Gary). But for me, it is definitely the Liver Point.

2. My Terrain
Years ago, upon visiting a homeopathic doctor, I was told that my liver was the weak point of my physiology and that it needed constant support. As a matter of fact, my other health issues – all minor I assure you – wouldn’t see any improvement if I didn’t care for my liver first.

3. My Energy System
Then it makes sense that skipping the liver point, in my case, would be more detrimental than the supposed benefits (a slight gain of time and a sometimes irrelevant sense of propriety) could ever bring. In my body, the liver meridian is probably the one housing the most energy disruptions. And healing wouldn’t be as deep if I didn’t tap on it.

4. The benefits for my patients
The benefits for myself are rather obvious. But what was incredible to me was to notice that for all my patients, the Liver Point also felt particularly potent and/or sensitive. Statistically, this shouldn’t be: for most therapists, the point can be skipped without any difference in the quality of the healing and they report similar results whether they choose to tap on it or not. The difference with my own experience probably comes from the fact that healing occurs in the space between the practitioner and the patient. Hence, what ails them, ails me; what heals me, heals them. And if I were to skip the Liver Point, I would also miss plenty of energy disruption in what I came to call “the reciprocal space” of healing, as a wink to my years as a scientist.

5. Conclusion:
As always, in energy psychology, there’s no one size fits all answer. Do what feels right. Which supposes that you have an clue of what feeling entails, but isn’t it the starting point of all healing process?

Harnessing the power of dreams in your EFT practice

 - by lucie

For some people, EFT is easy: as they tap, memories, sensations, emotions come up that they just need to follow to unravel the thread that leads to resolution and, ultimately, growth. For others, nothing comes up during the tapping process and without the help of another person, close friend or therapist, to point them to their dark places or dead angles, no progress is made. I belong to the second category, and since I practice EFT on my own, that can be kind of a problem. Until recently I didn’t know what to do when I reached a dead end. Now I found two great allies in my quest for emotional freedom: dreams and negative emotions.

Today I was able to harness their power and to let all the different threads that were separated come together and lead me to all kinds of inner places that needed healing. Here is the story of this journey.

1. How dreams came into play

Inspired by the ties my intuitive friends have with the dream realm and by my discovery of Judith Orloff’s work (Awakening Second Sight and Emotional Freedom), I decided recently to ask that my dreams answer one single question – a different one every night – before going to bed. Last night the question was, “Show me what I most need to know about my future.” Since in the past I seemed to obtain relevant answers, I was puzzled when, in the morning, I woke up to the uncomfortable feelings still clinging to shreds of a dream about my ex-boyfriend. I didn’t really succeed in shaking off the discomfort, even though I tapped on it, probably because there was more to be learned from the dream than what I could perceive at first.

2. Following the negative emotions

Relationships are the gift that keeps on giving, even when they’ve been over for a long time (nearly one year in my case), they still challenge and push you beyond your limits. They also offer opportunities for insights, and this one was no exception. Years ago, my then-boyfriend was complaining about the indecisiveness of my parents, which flabbergasted me. Here was this adult complaining that my parents were unable to make a decision when it was inappropriate to make one – we didn’t have all the information necessary – and when he was the most indecisive person I had ever met, changing his opinion constantly, and being utterly unaware of it… The epitome of a weathercock! That’s when I realized – a physical and emotional realization that shook my bones – that what we complain about in others is precisely what we don’t like – consciously or not – about ourselves.

Remembering my ex-boyfriend and this episode, I asked myself if there was anything I had been repeatedly complaining about recently and that for some reason I had overlooked.

3. Facebook and my step-daughter

I did find something. I had been complaining about it privately to my husband and my step-daughter, and publicly on Facebook, which in turn snowballed into numerous reactions from people. If you’re wondering what this thing is, here is how I described it on Facebook: “I have a weird and intense mix of pity/commiseration/agitation/sadness/annoyance when I spot someone who doesn’t know that the big, loose cross-stitches shutting closed the bottom of flaps on newly-bought garments are meant to be removed. Just rip ‘em off! It’s the biggest fashion faux-pas since the invention of ready-to-wear clothing and makes you look the opposite of the easy-yet-classy person you were trying to project, I promise.”
So here I had been, complaining repeatedly about something most people would consider a non-issue, being all judgemental and intolerant, not even able to hold it in in front of my poor six year-old step-daughter who now thinks I’m a fashion Nazi.

4. The core issue

So according to my own theory, my criticizing strangers or friends alike for their lack of fashion sense should mean that I’m really complaining about my own fashion shortcomings. And this is when it hit me… Of course, I had a bad sense of fashion! I was beaten up at recess, mocked, laughed at, ostracized by all the kids in my age class in Junior High School, mainly because I didn’t dress like them. They were all harboring new clothes when I was using up garments that had been passed down to me, not even from my older brothers and sisters (‘cause I’m the eldest you see), but from the neighbors’ kids! For my parents it didn’t matter; they’re intellectuals and never thought fashion was important. They couldn’t realize that what you wear tells a story about who you are, whether you want it or not. And what it told my peers was that I was different, I was poor, and didn’t know the codes by which the not-so-secret society of teenagers is organized. My complete lack of compliance with what the tastes of the day demanded in terms of clothing enabled them to obviously consider me the very bottom of the social basket, and in order for them to feel on top of me, they needed to show me my inferiority by all kinds of bad treatments. Even my friends – the few I had – didn’t dare take my side against the mob. Fortunately, I was very strong: I never complained to anyone about how I was suffering at school; I was proud to be able to resist on my own and to make it through Junior High without crying for help. And when I was thinking about this episode, the emotions started coming back to me: the humiliation, the anger, the rage, the hatred, the sadness, the self-pity, the shame.

5. The tapping and its results

So I tapped, not even bothering to make full sentences, not even trying to isolate each specific emotion like I usually do with my patients, not trying to be specific, not even taking a rating. I just tapped blindly until the maelstrom calmed down. Then I tapped on the tension that it had left in my throat and shoulders. And after five minutes only of wild, unorthodox tapping I was back to normal, completely calm, centered and collected. I tried to be mad at my parents, mad at my classmates, mad at my friends, mad at myself for being a victim, albeit a strong one… nothing happened. The memories wouldn’t even come up. Exactly what happens when an emotionally charged event from your past gets cleared: it becomes difficult to remember it and trying harder only makes you feel bored, because there’s nothing worth remembering there anymore. Wow! This was new. I didn’t tap on specific events and the feelings they generate like Gary Craig teaches us to. I just tapped on a dense bundle of emotions that I had never let out, not even at that time. Instead of cutting each tree – meaning each specific example of abuse – in the cluster of trees in my emotional forest, I just sent a bulldozer and simultaneously annihilated all the trees of a thicket!

6. Back to the negative emotion born from the dream

But I was still feeling antsy, and slimy from the dream. OK, all relationships are an opportunity for self-growth as illustrated earlier, but sometimes they just feel plain bad: you stay conscious, you stay connected, you give it your best, and the only thing you receive is shit. When it comes to that point, the best thing to do is leave and that’s what I did; except that since it was my apartment, the truth is I had to kick him out. And the more I was thinking about it the more I could put a name on the emotional discomfort I was wallowing in since morning: it was guilt. Not necessarily guilt that I kicked him out, because I had tapped on this back then, when we broke up. But more guilt that I had to break up with him in the first place. Guilt that I had let our relationship degrade, that I had been unable to communicate with him, that I had let him become a splitter who was abusing me emotionally, that I had let myself be a victim for so long, that I had been unable to understand and to counteract the damaging dynamic that had established itself in our relationship. Guilt that I had allowed my bestest friend – because this is what we were in the beginning – turn into an enemy, into a person I’d rather avoid seeing ever again, someone whose memory made me feel uncomfortable to the point of shunning a whole period of my life yet so rich in joys and lessons. Needless to say that I tapped on all those aspects of my guilt. For the first time I was able to 1. recognize there was a discomfort, 2. understand the emotions behind the discomfort, 3. address them and thus gain clarity and freedom.

7. Conclusion

All of this happened because I asked for guidance in my dreams and didn’t try to dismiss the answer. Instead, I delved into it fully until all was said and done. Yet, it took me time to realize that this process I was going through, this journey I’m writing about, was the exact, appropriate answer to my request of a guidance dream. Indeed, by clearing yesteryear’s emotional darkness, I opened pathways for emotional growth in my future.

Tonight, I feel fulfilled because I made my peace with two different kinds of abuse from the past. But I also feel empowered because I understood how to practice EFT on myself more efficiently. Rather than going at it from an intellectual standpoint, tapping through my Personal Peace Procedure, focusing on what I know I felt back then, it’s more fruitful to wait for the emotions, the feelings to surface, whether through the cunning use of dreams or through the unavoidable unravelling of life.

And if you’re wondering what my dream said about my ex-boyfriend, I’ll leave your hunger unsatisfied, because I don’t even remember…